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Flowers, Memories, Diaries

Memory is the diary we all carry about with us, wrote Oscar Wilde.

But for me, diary is memory. Years of memories.

Family, home, garden, daily life.

Diaries played a small role in my overall life, but became a huge part of my post-accident experience. With little sense of time, and often no memory of events just minutes after they happened, I started writing in my journal again.

Little things. Big things. Write it down quickly. 

Blog Photo - Journals

A doctor played a key role.  She told me to record events as they happened, figuring I could share these entries with the  medical professionals I visited.  My memory and speech problems were so bad, she noted, that “No other specialist will take two hours to try to figure out what you are saying. Write.”

Of course, that’s not word-for-word. But I scribbled down her order.

I returned to keeping journals. Some of the entries were so painful, I vowed to never re-read them.

The best? Entries about time with family.

Blog Photo - Rainy Garden with Flowering shrubs

Next best: time in the garden.

I used to keep a journal to track my gardens’ progress. The major triumphs and minor tragedies, the plans carried out and those forgotten.

Now, no longer able to garden, I was reduced to observing.  But observing led to writing and writing led to “remembering”.

The first spring bulbs to bloom.

Blog Photo - Crocus in Spring

The first night-bloomer of the season.

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The first time the fern-leaf peonies – presents from friends Les and Sandra – bloomed.

Blog Photo - Fernleaf Peonies

The hollyhock that bloomed in two colours.

Blog Photo - Daylily yellow

The mysterious flower that showed up one summer.

Blog Photo - Blue forget me not -- closer

Red currants, seeds planted by birds or breeze.

Blog - Red Currants

When your brain doesn’t work efficiently, you misplace things. When you’re in too much pain to move, you can’t go looking for things somewhere else.  So I learned to keep the garden journal on the verandah, and other journals in every room of the house.

Blog Photo - Verandah chairsAn onlooker, seeing me writing on that lovely verandah, might have thought: “What a charmed life.”

But as my mother always said : “Never envy others. No-one knows what troubles they have.” I was – quite literally — writing to save my life.

Looking back, I’m astonished at some of the lovely things that happened. Things to be grateful for. People to be grateful to.

I’m shocked at the development of this garden, as captured in my journals.

Grateful to my husband, for building arbours, dividing plants, maintaining the garden — in addition to everything else that landed on his plate.

Blog Photo - Garden Bridal wreath

Some of what I read evokes real memories. They bring tears, laughter, delight, wonder.

Some of it is not at all familiar. It’s like reading about someone else’s life, but knowing it’s yours.

Interesting, that.

Photos by Hamlin Grange

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45 thoughts on “Flowers, Memories, Diaries”

    1. Thank you. My husband has worked hard. I just get to give him directions — and he follows them. Anyone who’s ever driven with a man knows that’s a major triumph! (Big smile). Pls. forgive the stereotype.

  1. They look like wonderful memories Cynthia. I hope your health and memory are better these days. Good reminder that we don’t know what others are going through. The best is to listen, ask questions and help if possible. Thanks for touching my life via our blogs. 🙂

  2. Cynthia, what a touching post. I’m so sorry to hear of your disability. I had no idea it was as serious as you described. You are a real blessing and example to us all. 😀

    1. Thanks, Levi. I hope God makes me a blessing to somebody. As often as possible.

      Having a screwed up brain and body can remove all false pride from a person, you know.
      Maybe that’s why I laugh at myself so much these days.

    1. Thanks, Clare. I pray the same for you.
      As my mother would have said “Everyone is going through something.” So many of the bloggers in my network either have gone, or are going through something. I think you are very brave yourself, BTW.

      When things get too gloomy around here, I write a funny blog post, and when you and others laugh, it lifts up my spirits no end!!

  3. Fab pictures and a moving post. It’s interesting how going through such hardship brings you out the other side with so much strength. You may not feel like it, yourself, but you always strike me as amazingly sorted, grounded and together person. And your husband is clearly a lovely chap too. I hope the garden continues to please you, along with the loud out of tune singing in church and all the other joyous moments life brings.

    Cheers

    MTM

  4. What a wise doctor you had. I think that is a brilliant idea to have a journal in every room. Your post reminded me of the educational/memory tool of the commonplace book http://quinncreative.wordpress.com/2013/04/30/the-commonplace-journal/ My mother finds it difficult to write her diary these days. Being unable to do so has had a profound effect on her peace of mind, her memory and her general well-being. She has been a diary writer for more than 8 decades; she feels the loss tremendously.

    1. My heart goes out to your mother. That must be almost as tough as losing the capacity to read books, when you’ve been a lifelong reader. (And one of the main reasons I implore people to read to others — or give them audiotapes).
      I enjoyed the quinncreative blog post. Those “commonplace journals” that I kept in every room became of great help in completing my first book.

      Yes, my doctor is smart. At the time, I think she was totally frustrated with me! I acknowledged her in A Good Home and she got a chuckle out of that.

      1. And lazy family that we are, we rely a lot on our mother’s diaries to remind us of daily happenings; so we miss her diary keeping too. She can dictate but it really isn’t the same as that important contact of hand to pen to paper.

  5. I have been writing my memories for years. Most of my diaries were from periods of travel, or anxiety filled life events. I leave the later for some time of reflection, or the next generation to puzzle over.

    Recently, in preparation for a vacation to Italy next year, I found my travel diary from 24 years ago. I spent two weeks in Rome. I was amazed at places that I had visited, but my memories were faded. Now, blogs fulfill that role.
    Oscar
    P.S. My wife also says that blogging in a great improvement over my penmenship of 24 years ago…

    1. What a lovely reply. Thanks for it. Our memories do fade, with time. That’s why I always advise others: keep a journal! Take pictures! and you’re so right: blogging is another way of keeping track.

  6. Your Mother was so right about not envying others. It’s wonderful to see how you fought through all of that to become the lovely, humble lady you are now, sharing your easily enviable talents with us. Never stop.

  7. Your garden, and your journey are both amazing. Your diligence in diary-writing, I envy. I have big gaps of time where I’m not entirely sure what happened, and I sure would like to have a book to look it up in. Love that veranda. I imagine I could sit there from dawn ’till dark just reading a book or having a leisurely chat.

    1. I can’t recommend journal-keeping strongly enough, but I think your blog is an effective journal too, Rosie.

      It’s a great old verandah. People come to visit me. Their goal is to cheer me up, but they often just sit there, finding peace. I think it’s a magical place.

  8. Someone once told me “we all have a story that we need to listen for and respect”. I believe that someone was my Grandmother :-). Thank you for continuing to share your story Cynthia and Hamlin. With love and blessings, Judi & Nick

  9. Beautiful musings Cynthia. I imagine my children one day after my departure from this plane, reading my journals and laughing, crying, being surprised, shocked and finally maybe understanding their mother. “A life worth living is a life worth recording” – Tony Robbins

  10. I journal daily and I often feel I would be lost without it, and I haven’t experienced whatever horrible accident/tragedy has befallen you. I give you much credit for your resilience, your perseverance in the face of such difficult odds and your continuing to write. Writing is a lifeline, indeed.
    Jeanne

  11. Oh Cynthia this was such a lovely post. I love your sincerity and honesty. Your garden is just a dream and your porch so welcoming and calming. I’m glad you are willing to share your challenges and it is so true about not really knowing about the challenges that others face. We are all so quick to make judgements. Thank you for sharing this – just beautiful!
    – xx

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