Memoirs – Cynthia Reyes

Checking In – Again

July 16, 2024August 14, 2024 Cynthia Reyes

Hello, Friends.

Sorry, but the grandchildren and my teaching are winning. Not enough time to blog often – just enough to read some posts, often in the wee hours.

Sharing a rare update:

The Grandchildren

The grandchildren are doing well, thank God. The usual colds, etc. which we’ve come to expect.

The older one is the only 4 year old I know who spends huge after-school time writing and doing her math. She plays a lot, but also badly wants to learn.

The younger one is climbing everything – and trying to become an escape artist in the process. They both melt our hearts daily with their smiles and antics.

Teaching Writing

Teaching has also been rewarding. Not financially – the pay is so small, it’s almost like volunteering. But it delights me to watch my students become skilled writers. Three have had their short stories chosen for a respected anthology, and 4 have already completed the first drafts of their books (memoirs), and sent them to Beta readers. Talk about growth!

The rewards are mutual. I’ve grown alongside the groups I’ve taught.

Lunch with my Writing Students

An Important Lesson

The first year I started teaching writing, I was having a very rough time after a car accident. I wrote in my journal:

“On the first day with (the) group, I decided to reveal my issues that could affect my performance.

“They could already tell I had walking difficulties, so it was easier to address the pain which afflicts me when I stand or sit for long. But it took courage to tell them about the invisible stuff. All have been obvious at different times – the stuttering, strange talking, extreme forgetfulness at times, difficulty getting the words out, and completely losing it if sounds come at me from different directions.

“I also take pre-emptive steps to help me through potential problems. Each agenda is very clear and detailed to keep me on track and to help them help me if I lose my way.

“I don’t remember their names each week, so I started out giving name cards. Those disappeared quickly, so now I wait for the other participants to call each other by name, and I write it down, indicating where they are sitting that day.

“Each week, I remind them to let me know if I’m not being clear. I also stop and ask them: ‘Does that make sense? If it doesn’t, please tell me.’

“I think they are deciphering my intent in the rough spots.”

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I’ve shared the above as a reminder to me, and anyone who needs it, that even when times are really bad, there’s still something we can do, and still people who will support you because they see how hard you’re trying.

My very best to you,

Cynthia.

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MIXED BLESSINGS

November 10, 2016November 10, 2016 Cynthia Reyes

It’s November, the month when many writers write.

Not me.

I’m not working on the next book, not writing my blog, not even journal-ing every day.

In typical Cynthia fashion, I had a good stretch of days some weeks ago and was so thankful for it, I tried to do too much.

Ignored the warning signs. Committed other rampant acts of mindless-ness.

The bad pain came, then the flu. And throughout it all, the bloody nightmares whenever I slept long enough.

But pushing myself, as my therapist and journals remind me, is how I’ve come this far.

And I’m pushing again.

Twice a week now, I lead very small groups of individuals who are writing their memoirs.

None is a professional or even an experienced writer. But they are bright, interesting, mature people.

Some of their stories are painful to write, I know. But what a joy for me to help them develop as writers.

They’re changing in front of my eyes — and theirs. Blooming.

At first, I wondered how they’d see me.

It’s obvious I have difficulty walking – sometimes it’s very bad. But I decided to reveal — on the very first day — some of the stuff others don’t immediately see. That I sometimes stutter or speak strangely. That I might struggle to cross-reference or absorb new information and that if voices/sounds come at me from more than one source, it affects me.

Just as well I did.

I’ve come up against my limits repeatedly – and so markedly, twice, that I later went to the washroom and cried.

Then there’s the tiny paycheque. I earned more money in my early 20’s!

So why am I smiling?

This activity has given me a purpose outside the home. I spend 2 hours, twice a week, with a group of individuals whom I like, respect and marvel at. I can see their progress each week and it delights me. The stories they tell — even the painful ones –are a balm to my soul.

Blessed am I to have such students.

And blessed am I to have readers who notice when my blogging patterns are ‘off’, and ask why.

Thank you.

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Book Blessed and Launched

May 24, 2016May 25, 2016 Cynthia Reyes

Last weekend, my book was blessed and launched.

By our priest, Rev. Canon Claire Wade at St. Thomas’ Anglican in the village of Brooklin, Ontario

Book Photo at Launch Rev Canon Claire

And our church community, family and friends

Book Photo at Launch with Reader D

At 9.a.m in the morning of a long weekend, no less!

Book Photo at Launch Cynthia Reading

It was a full house. The food was great, the speeches were short, and I didn’t stutter or cry while reading.

Book Photo at Launch Small Group 4

Book Photos at Launch small group smiles

Book Photo at Launch Group applauds

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Thanks to Hamlin for the photos and to publisher Don Bastian for his beautiful speech below:

Book Photo at Launch Don B — **Publisher Don Bastian**

“I’ve attended many book launches, but this is the first book blessing I’ve ever heard of. I think there should be more of them!

In my experience as an editor and reader, memoir writers fall into one of two camps.

In one camp are those who create a book. Their book falls somewhere on the spectrum from boring waste of space to keen insight into a life well spent. But in the end, all they have created is a book.

Book Photo at Launch Small Group 3

In the other camp, and this camp is less populous, are those who create a book, of course, but who also create a world. In some mysterious way, in telling the story of their own life, they tell the story of their readers’ lives, as well.

I think you know into which camp Cynthia Reyes has pitched her tent.

Book Photo at Launch 2

Opening the pages of AN HONEST HOUSE is like opening a colourful gift. Yes, we do grapple with the pain we are subject to, having messed things up in the Garden of Eden. But we do get closer to the border of that wonderful garden. We are drawn into Cynthia and Hamlin’s literal garden and into their big-hearted marriage and church relationships and extensive set of friendships. And we are so much the better for it.

And so I am honoured to congratulate Cynthia on her new book. To congratulate her for displaying:

great skill as the writer of a book;
supreme artistry as the creator of a world;
and amazing grace to confer on us, her readers, honorary citizenship in that world.”

Thank you, Don, Hamlin, Rev. Canon Claire, Sharon and everyone who took part.

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“Just Write,” she said

December 2, 2015December 3, 2015 Cynthia Reyes

A women’s group once asked me to read excerpts from my personal stories. They asked why and how I wrote them. And they asked for advice about writing their own memoirs.

Paraphrased below, is what I said.

Write.

Write about memorable experiences, even the tiny ones.

Write about yourself; things you did or saw happen; the people you met. Write about what they said, and how that affected you; what you learned from them.

But above all, just get into the habit of jotting things down. In a journal, a notebook. On your cell phone. Pieces of paper. The phone bill.

Write. Jot it down.

A word you love. A quote from someone else. The way the light shone through your window and lit up the polished wood floors. The way that made you feel.

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Over time, you may have enough material for one story, or dozens. You don’t try to get them published. Too personal, you think. And – – what if no-one even likes them?

Then, by a twist of fate, you have an accident and find yourself unable to move from your bed on many days. When you talk, you stutter. And when you walk, you may even fall.

You will not be able to write a story for years.

But you will have those old stories to remind you of the kinds of people you met, experiences you had, insights you learned – in short, the life you lived. You may discover that you’d been blessed with a very good life. And that you had been given a wonderful gift in the form of those stories.

Then, along comes a prestigious magazine that wants to publish your stories, and a publisher who wants to launch your first book. Turns out that in those dozens of stories, written over 25 years, you had, unknowingly, recorded the elements of your memoir.

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